If you’re divorced, or have ended a long-term relationship, well-meaning relatives and friends may encourage you to start dating again soon.But how will you know when you're ready for a new relationship?You might meet a new partner through a friend or by clicking with a mysterious stranger -- but you may also want to consider online dating.“The advantage is you have a pool of people who are looking, like you are,” Sills says.“You wouldn't date somebody who's still tangled up with an ex emotionally. ” If you were in a committed relationship for a long time, the idea of beginning a new romance may seem scary.If you've recently tried other activities that bring you out of your comfort zone, you could be ready to date.It’s when you drag it with you morosely, or hide behind it, that it becomes an issue.
“Everyone ends a relationship by grieving the emotional investment.
While you are rebuilding your self-image, consciously think about your marriage and what went wrong. The ideal is to reach a place of acceptance with your divorce, and your ex, and your new life.
Realise that you have things to offer a new relationship.
Don’t be tempted to use dating to salvage your pride.
While you’ll undoubtedly get a confidence boost from realising you’re still desirable, it’ll only be a fragile support and if that relationship finishes too, you’ll feel doubly vulnerable. Instead of rushing back into looking for love, take some time to rebuild your self-esteem *for* and *by* yourself.