This expectation of instant intimacy, that Netflix and chilling is a ‘good enough’ first date, tells you that either they don’t value themselves enough to even know how to create a proper date…or that really they just want sex. Whatever you decide to do – do it because you want to, not because you think that the other person expects it.
I hope that you find these early warning signs helpful because you really deserve to be in a loving relationship that makes you feel valued and important.
I’ve seen this in my practice often, and it can very flattering in the beginning when someone texts you to tell you they are thinking about you etc, but it often quickly escalates into someone wanting to have virtual verbal sex with you when they haven’t even met you. Maybe I’m just old and uptight (Although I don’t think so :o) ) but I really see that as a major issue.
If you haven’t even met someone and they’re telling you how much they desire you, and what they want to do with you, this is a sure indication of someone who just wants to get laid and is not really in the market for a long-term relationship.
Of course, I’m not talking about people who are just shy.
It’s normal to be a little reserved when just getting to know someone, but when someone is secretive or never gives you any real information about themselves…that raises a red flag.
In this week’s Real Love Revolution video, we’re going to be breaking down the top five high-alert warning signals that you should not ignore if you are dating online or using dating apps.
If someone’s profile is super scarce and there’s not a lot of information – it doesn’t have to mean that they’re not who they say they are but it does indicate that maybe they are not willing to put in the time, energy, and effort to make a meaningful profile so that you could get to know them at least a little bit.
Don’t be blinded by the fact that it flatters you – really think about whether this behaviour is ok with you.
If you were on a date with someone and you were sitting there having a drink and they reached over and grabbed your breasts, would that be ok?
And the truth is, being aware of these warning signs will prevent you from wasting your precious time in your beautiful one-of-a-kind life.
Technically, a relationship needs to only be defined by the people who are in the relationship.