They believe that any change weakens their church and threatens their eternal souls.No wonder they encourage the old Amish dating customs.The boys and girls sit at a long table facing each other.There is plenty of time between songs to talk and socialize. The group will then hang around for an hour or two after singing with the unattached boys and girls sizing each other up as likely partners.It seems strange that only the strictest Amish congregations still sanction it.In ultra-conservative groups like the Swartzentruber Amish or the Nebraska Amish, homes are still heated by wood stoves and furnished with plain furniture with no upholstering.
If both are willing, the couple starts going steady. On the weekend when there is no church, the couple usually dates on Saturday night. Either party can quit the relationship at any time.
So in these households, the old reasons for bed courtship remain.
It is an old custom and these ultra-conservative churches stubbornly cling to old traditions.
Just as in the outside world, it might take someone several tries to find a lifelong partner.
The more conservative couples practice traditional Amish dating customs.