Use other means to keep in touch – texting, phone calls and emails and value the time you do get together.If, when and how you meet the kids has to be the decision of the parent.Even though you know that is how it should be, it may still cause feelings of jealousy – whatever you do don’t nag or complain for more – this is likely to make your date feel like they have taken on another child rather than an adult date.Many parents don’t live together but share responsibility for raising their children which means your date will still be in regular contact with their ex – this may be the best thing for the kids but it can bring up difficult feelings for you – if you really can’t handle it then maybe this isn’t the right relationship for you.If he’s not down to chat for twenty-minutes on the phone or Skype after your baby is asleep, he’s not dating material for you. Deadbeat Dad You may know how crazy it can be to coordinate with an ex when it comes to visitation and finances.
If your man thinks the ideal date is all-night clubbing with bottle service, he’s not going to be up for diaper changing at 5 a.m. (The baby is with grandma and you’re getting a break from the single mommy routine!Whether each man I date knows it or not, I’m testing him from day one. In other words, he’s not looking to settle down or meet your kid any time soon.“He's insecure and desperately needs to demonstrate control.” So what if he ordered an eighty-dollar bottle of wine at dinner and drives a nice car?“The blame game antics are lame cover-ups,” says Klungness.“His choice to abandon his kids — emotionally or financially — should be an instant deal breaker.” You don’t want his baggage in your life. Party Animal Yep, single moms have every right to let their hair down and have a good time.